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Re: Family in uk

Postby Jillandsteve » Sun Mar 06, 2016 9:26 am

Before we retired our daughter and grandchildren lived in Perth, Australua whilst we were living in Brisbane
We have lived away from our family in uk for over 40 years and our immediate family since the 90's
Your family, all of them, have their own lives to lead and you have yours.
My family, in the UK , back as i grew up, all lived a stones throw away from there parents, brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles
We decided in 1974 to break the mould and emigrated to NZ and have since lived in Australia and Ireland (never go to ireland, always raining)
We are in contact with our family in Australia on a daily basis via FB and facetime and with whats left of are UK family as often as we wish.
Live your own lives not the lives of your families
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Deb and Ty » Mon Mar 07, 2016 1:00 am

calamitykay wrote:
scubydoo wrote:A link to some previous posts that may help you.

Hi there, firstly "Good for you" for deciding to take the plunge!! I came over in September 2014, initially for 6 months. I replied to a similar query here : Re: Long Break we ended up staying for 11 months, returning primarily because we needed to tax our vehicle in August and it was our youngest son's 21st.
It will depend on how close you are as a family now, I used to see my grandchildren quite a lot, helping with school runs, jumping in when extra shifts were offered to parents, sleep overs etc etc. I was quite teary for the first 3 months in all honesty. It was fantastic to see them when they came on holiday but boy was it hectic!! On the go from 7am to 7pm!!! When they returned back to the UK and we came back from the airport, we just looked at each other and said "Listen to that" - "Silence"!!!! lol!!
As I said, we went back in August last year after 11 months and guess what? We are back again, this time for a definite 6 month stint! We go back at the end of June so we will be back for all the birthdays and Christmas which was the biggest thing for me. Christmas here is completely different to back home and I didn't like it one bit without the children!!
Skype is invaluable but I also get them to write me letters and include artwork etc. It's brilliant to get their letters :) I also send them letters and post cards and they keep them on their memory boards in their bedrooms.
I am a firm believer in the saying "You only get one life", "Life is not a rehearsal" etc. You have brought your children into the world and seen them grow into adults with families of their own now. It is time for you to do what you want and not to feel obligated or whatever. It's your turn to have adventures - your grandchildren will probably think you are really 'cool' and be able to impress their friends lol!!
It's a completely different way of life - I am enjoying this time round more too as I have joined different clubs (yoga, cycling, walking etc) and made life-long friends.
My advice would be 'Nike' - 'Just Do It'!!!!
Good luck xxx
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Deb and Ty » Mon Mar 07, 2016 1:01 am

Thanks you sound like I am full hands on grandma and working full time, seriously thinking we need to chill xx
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Cymro43 » Mon Mar 07, 2016 9:25 am

You can be in contact regularity via Skype or FaceTime, but what I find is that when they visit, you have more quality tome with them. In UK, they have other things to do, other friends etc but out here they are with you 24/7
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Re: Family in uk

Postby cliffyrmd » Mon Mar 07, 2016 11:24 am

Not a problem with us as ours dont speak to us anyway no idea why its heartbreaking really We have grandchildren in Australia who we havent seen for years and one in UK that for some reason has stopped speaking to us and even blocked us from facebook He has a almost 2 yr old think hes been influenced by his older sisters as there was no problem before Not sure if we can do anything hubby just says let them get on with it and wont do anything but i feel so hopeless just want to have an output in their lives Any advice will be a help
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Janjan » Mon Mar 07, 2016 12:35 pm

I don't think it's the children that miss you when you move away. They would relocate at the drop of a hat if it suited them. Why not the other way round. The Grandchildren are different but they grow up very quickly and you could have regrets later in life if you didn't follow your dream. If you can afford a Holiday Home it's the better option and after 7 years we made the big step to sell up in the UK . People are crying out for rental properties in UK at the moment now, so that's made easier. Different in 2003.
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Re: Family in uk

Postby DianeD » Tue Mar 08, 2016 5:03 pm

We have been here for nearly six months now and have found it really tough at times although I have been back for visits in December, January and just back today after Mothers Day. Definitely harder for Mums/Grandmas! We haven't sold our house in Essex but it is rented out to give us an income so we will be able to return in the Autumn. I found Christmas particularly hard and wouldn't do another, although it was also the first one since losing my Mum and the whole family were very emotional - we just wanted to be together. Yes, FaceTime is brilliant but doesn't beat a hug! So, for us, we are thinking of just a couple of months at a time in the future as we do love the life here and of course, the sunshine!. I must say that when I'm back in the UK now I have real 'quality' time with the family which we didn't have that much of before with our busy lives. It's nice to have the best of both worlds and I feel fortunate to have this choice.
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Jan » Tue Mar 08, 2016 5:19 pm

DianeD wrote:We have been here for nearly six months now and have found it really tough at times although I have been back for visits in December, January and just back today after Mothers Day. Definitely harder for Mums/Grandmas! We haven't sold our house in Essex but it is rented out to give us an income so we will be able to return in the Autumn. I found Christmas particularly hard and wouldn't do another, although it was also the first one since losing my Mum and the whole family were very emotional - we just wanted to be together. Yes, FaceTime is brilliant but doesn't beat a hug! So, for us, we are thinking of just a couple of months at a time in the future as we do love the life here and of course, the sunshine!. I must say that when I'm back in the UK now I have real 'quality' time with the family which we didn't have that much of before with our busy lives. It's nice to have the best of both worlds and I feel fortunate to have this choice.

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Yes the best of both worlds is best.

There are some people who sell up in UK and are not happy living abroad and if they had rented first even just for a few months they would find that out without losing anything.

It's easier to rent and go back than to sell up in UK and then try to go back and those who love it can always sell in the UK later and make more money on the property to buy that special Spanish property knowing exactly where they would like to live in Spain, through 'living' experience of the area.

My mantra is 'don't burn bridges too soon or at all, if possible!'

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Re: Family in uk

Postby Pete31 » Tue Mar 08, 2016 5:38 pm

Wait for the referendum!! I am.
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Re: Family in uk

Postby Jillandsteve » Sun Mar 13, 2016 9:00 pm

Having lived in first the UK, then NZ, then Australia, the Ireland and now Spain all i can say is that i need a rest!!
We have grandchildren in Australia busily learning Spanish to hep us when they come to visit.
Keep close contact through facetime, skype and Facebook and your kids and grandkids wont forget you
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