Family in uk

We are planning on spending most of the year at our home in quesada in the year or so, how do people find the move when leaving grandchildren and family back in the uk

Us fellas get over it pretty quickly (around about 2 hours after landing). It's you females who're usually the weak link
and can pine for ages. It depends on the individual really. Some manage, others don't. Good luck with your move.

Jordy

I think it depends on many things. How close you are to family in UK, how old they are and other factors.
I know several who have come to Spain and missed their families so much that they return. One couple wrote a letter to a paper saying they'd done that, missed the family and moved back to UK but then realised they didn't see as much of them as they'd remembered and now wanted to move back to Europe (I think that was France).
We speak to our kids and grandkids regularly by phone and by Skype. They also visit fairly regularly (though this tends to drop off after a while as they want to go elsewhere).
In UK, we had one daughter with her kids living 140 miles away in one direction and the other with her kids living the same distance away in the other direction. I think we see more of them now than we did whilst in UK. We go back fairly regularly as we have other family living there (€48 Alicante to Cardiff next month and £39.99 Alicante to Stansted as well) which doesn't cost so much. School holidays is the bugbear as the grandkids can only visit then and prices skyrocket. It can be cheaper to get a flight, hotel and meals package than just paying for the flights at that time.
Even when going back we find that, now 3 of them are teenagers, we don't see very much of them at all as they are out with friends and doing their own thing. When they visit here we see a lot more of them and the 3 or 4 weeks they are here makes up for the rest of the time.
Skype, though, is the Godsend.

you move away, you just got to deal with it or move back!!!

My Husband always said it was our time now. It can get very boring in the UK when you retire unless you have hobbies etc. because of the weather. In Spain you can sit and have coffee in the Sun and watch the world go by. Do a lot or nothing at all.

Deb and Ty wrote:We are planning on spending most of the year at our home in quesada in the year or so, how do people find the move when leaving grandchildren and family back in the uk

I would try staying for a few months at a time as you can stay in Spain as Non Residents for approx 6 months and see how you feel, if this is possible. It really is the only way to see how it goes.

We have known people who burn their bridges and move lock stock & barrel and then life changes ie new grandchildren come along and they have felt very cut off and miss them terribly. On the other hand we know others who love it and would not want to go back. It all depends, as we are all different personalities and enjoy different things in life.

Some other friends of ours have rented their house out in the UK and have lived happily in a rented house for the last 3 years or so. They love it but always have the option of returning at any time.

Another couple we know rented their house out in UK planning to stay indefinitely and went into a lovely rental property near Quesada and were very happy for a few months but then decided the life wasn't suiting them and went home within 6 months. They were so lucky and fortunate that they had not sold up in the Uk to live in Spain.

Just food for thought.

Jan

Ps We have a holiday home and love coming to the area -My husband would stay there as long as possible and has said he thinks he could live there. I on the other hand love going there but could never live there and a month at a time is great but enough for me. The lifestyle is totally different from where we live in Surrey near London which is what I love about it, but that lifestyle would not suit me full time. We are retired and don't stop doing things where we live in the UK (always busy!) but Quesada is our "change is as good as a rest" time.

Just do it you are heading towards the end of your life they are at the beginning of the journey you have done your bit now enjoy life in the sun it's fantastic as Jan says it's not for everyone but I personaly would highly recomend it, with Skyp etc you can get to see all the people back home you have left in the wind, rain and snow and overcast days then feel realy sorry for them.

A link to some previous posts that may help you.
quesada-general-discussion-f9/long-break-t5513.html?hilit=nike#p22033

Good link Scooby Doo. My partner and I have been here for four months so it is early days. When in the UK my family were "up north" whilst we lived down south and didn't see that much of them really. The journey there and back was a slog. As has been said,life is short, and the UK isn't that far away. We have taken early retirement and couldn't possibly have afforded to do that in England but our lives are now our own which feels pretty good! We have met some lovely people and are doing things that we never had time for when working. No regrets so far!

[quote="scubydoo"]A link to some previous posts that may help you.

Hi there, firstly "Good for you" for deciding to take the plunge!! I came over in September 2014, initially for 6 months. I replied to a similar query here : Re: Long Break we ended up staying for 11 months, returning primarily because we needed to tax our vehicle in August and it was our youngest son's 21st.
It will depend on how close you are as a family now, I used to see my grandchildren quite a lot, helping with school runs, jumping in when extra shifts were offered to parents, sleep overs etc etc. I was quite teary for the first 3 months in all honesty. It was fantastic to see them when they came on holiday but boy was it hectic!! On the go from 7am to 7pm!!! When they returned back to the UK and we came back from the airport, we just looked at each other and said "Listen to that" - "Silence"!!!! lol!!
As I said, we went back in August last year after 11 months and guess what? We are back again, this time for a definite 6 month stint! We go back at the end of June so we will be back for all the birthdays and Christmas which was the biggest thing for me. Christmas here is completely different to back home and I didn't like it one bit without the children!!
Skype is invaluable but I also get them to write me letters and include artwork etc. It's brilliant to get their letters I also send them letters and post cards and they keep them on their memory boards in their bedrooms.
I am a firm believer in the saying "You only get one life", "Life is not a rehearsal" etc. You have brought your children into the world and seen them grow into adults with families of their own now. It is time for you to do what you want and not to feel obligated or whatever. It's your turn to have adventures - your grandchildren will probably think you are really 'cool' and be able to impress their friends lol!!
It's a completely different way of life - I am enjoying this time round more too as I have joined different clubs (yoga, cycling, walking etc) and made life-long friends.
My advice would be 'Nike' - 'Just Do It'!!!!
Good luck xxx